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By Amy Hoffmann Schenk, RN, BSN, MS Ed, Community Engagement Lead Neuropsychiatric Research Center of SW Florida
Holiday season is here! Holidays in Florida may look a little different for those of us originally from a northern state. For example, no snow, holiday lights on palm trees and not evergreens, but the spirit and joyfulness of the season transcends location. We also know that for many, along with the traditions, food and connections, anxiety and depression may occur during holiday time. Loss of loved ones, changes in one’s financial situation and the pressure to have the mythical “perfect holiday” can be overwhelming and stressful.
For those who are caring for someone with memory issues, some of those challenging feelings can be intensified. Caregiving can be a 24/7 job. With the additional expectations of traditions, gift giving, festive meals and other celebrations, it may feel too much to achieve. Many times, we unknowingly add stress to our plates by setting expectations that would be impossible, even without our caregiving responsibilities. Although our rational mind knows that holidays do not have to be perfect, how many of us have the perfect Hallmark Channel holiday vision in our heads? If we think about it, was there ever a “perfect” holiday experience in our lives? If you can answer “yes,” remember those times with appreciation and gratitude. Reframing the concept of “perfect” to “memorable” may be more realistic. Let’s face it, perfection is overrated.
Take a deep breath and let those dreams of perfection float away like a feather. Let’s explore some ways to have a memorable holiday when you are caring for someone with memory challenges. Do an honest assessment of your loved one’s current condition. Examine the holiday traditions that are non-negotiable. The concept of less is more can be helpful in this situation. Let’s start by assessing your loved one. Ask yourself these questions:
• What are the activities that they can partake in?
• What are the best times of day for my loved one?
• Do they get upset or frustrated with too much going on?
• How do they do when their routine is changed?
• What type of situations cause my loved one to get upset or agitated?
• How do they react with others, including family?
After you have done the evaluation of your loved one, take an objective look at your holiday events, celebrations, and traditions. Be candid in your assessment and know that everything can be changed if it needs to be. Questions to consider:
• What are the holiday traditions that mean the most to both of us?
• What are the activities that personally bring me joy and not stress? Keep them on the list!
• Is my loved one able to travel across town or across the country? Will the change in routine, particularly with longer travel times, have a negative effect on my loved one?
• Who can help me with some of the essential holiday tasks?
• Can someone else spend some time with my loved one regularly so that I can personally do some of the holiday activities I enjoy?
Of course, there is not one perfect solution all situations, We know perfection is unattainable. celebrating at home or elsewhere. Christine LoConte, Executive Director of the Dubin Center has some suggestions as well. For caregivers, the holidays can be challenging, but simplifying traditions, setting realistic expectations, and preparing family can help. Focus on a few meaningful activities rather than trying to do everything. Inform visiting family members about the type of dementia your loved one has, so they’re prepared and can interact with greater understanding and patience. Don’t hesitate to ask for specific help, like running errands or spending time with your loved one so you can take a break. Small adjustments like these can make the season more manageable and enjoyable for everyone.
The Dubin Center provides valuable support for caregivers during the holidays so that no one faces dementia alone. With a range of resources tailored to dementia care, the Center offers access to support groups, educational resources, and personalized consultations that help caregivers navigate holiday stress and challenges. Caregivers can reach out for guidance on simplifying holiday activities, managing family visits, and creating a comfortable environment for their loved ones. The Dubin Center can also connect caregivers with respite resources, allowing them to take much-needed breaks and enjoy time for themselves. Whether online or in person, the Center’s compassionate support can make a meaningful difference during the holiday season. https://dubincenter.com/ | 239-437-3007
If you or your loved ones seem to be forgetting a bit more, give the gift of peace of mind and schedule a free memory screen at NPRC by calling 239-939- 7777. No insurance needed. Memories matter!
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